Membership Plans

All plans below are shown in US dollars. Visitors outside the United States will see local currency at checkout where it is available.

VIP plans

VIP Plus plans

Prices are taken from the current plan list and may change. The checkout always shows the exact amount before you confirm.

Choosing a tier

VIP is designed for people who want to search, message and engage fully with the people they find. VIP Plus adds extra visibility and premium extras on top of VIP, for anyone who wants their profile to stand out and to get the most from every feature. The exact features of each tier are displayed on the upgrade screen inside your account, letting you weigh one against the other first.

A few questions can help you choose.

How active do you plan to be? If you expect to write to a handful of people over a few weeks, VIP may be all you need. If you want maximum visibility while you search, VIP Plus is worth a look.

How long do you expect to search? Finding the right D/s partner can take time. People who prefer not to think about renewals often choose a longer plan.

Do you want to test first? The one week plans let you try the full experience before committing to anything longer.

Choosing a plan length

Both tiers share the same set of durations. Shorter plans suit people who want to try the experience or who are searching for something specific with a clear end date, such as a partner to attend an event with. Longer plans suit people who know that the right connection may take a while to find and would rather not interrupt their search.

The year long plans are billed once and then simply end, while every shorter plan rolls over at the close of its term until you switch renewal off.

Renewal and cancellation

Renewing plans continue at the same price for the same length of time unless you cancel. You can cancel renewal from your account settings at any point before the next renewal date, and you keep every upgraded feature right up to the last day of the term already bought.

Not sure of your next billing date? It is listed in your account settings. If you need help, the support team can answer questions about billing, renewals and your account. A link to support appears at the bottom of every page.

Upgrading later

There is no need to decide on day one. Many people spend their first days completing a profile, reading guides and getting a sense of who is nearby before they look at plans at all. When you do upgrade, you can start with a shorter plan and move to a longer one later, or step up from VIP to VIP Plus if you find you want more visibility. Your profile, favorites and messages stay with you whichever plan you hold.

If you take a break from searching, perhaps because you have met someone, simply switch off renewal. Your profile can stay in place, and you can upgrade again whenever you return.

Discreet billing

Many people prefer that a kink dating membership does not stand out on a bank statement. Billing descriptors are discreet and do not name the site in an obvious way. If you share a card or an account with someone else, check the statement wording with support before you upgrade.

Membership for couples and switches

A membership belongs to one profile. Couples who search together usually share a single profile that describes both partners, their roles and their shared limits, and choose one plan for it. Switches do not need two accounts either: one profile can say that you enjoy both roles and explain how you like to move between them.

Payment security

Payments are processed through a secure checkout. Your card details are handled by the payment processor and are not visible to other members. Never send money to another member for any reason, and never give card details to someone who contacts you claiming to represent the site. Genuine support will never ask for your password or full card number in a message.

Scam warning signs and reporting steps are set out under trust and safety, including people who ask for money, gift cards or financial control. The findom guide covers financial domination scams in particular.

What membership does not change

A membership upgrades your access to features. It does not change the rules, and it does not change anyone's right to say no. Every person here decides who they reply to, what they share and whether they meet. Upgraded accounts answer to exactly the same standards of consent and respect, and a VIP badge offers no protection to anyone who breaks them.

It also does not guarantee a match. Membership gives you better tools, but compatibility still comes down to honest profiles, thoughtful messages and patience. Walk through how it works or read our profile writing advice in this guide, both good places to start making the most of your membership.

Before you upgrade

Take a little time to complete your profile first. Choose your role, describe your style, list your interests and limits, and add a recent photo. A complete profile makes a real difference to the replies you receive, whatever plan you choose. Browse the search, read a few profiles in your area and get a feel for the people here. Then decide which plan suits your search.

If you are new to kink, the beginner guide to kink dating explains first steps, and the features page describes the tools available.

Getting started

Signup Here to create your profile, then choose a VIP or VIP Plus plan whenever you are ready. Already a member? Sign in and visit the upgrade screen in your account.